"Love is not a feeling, but a reflection, a reaction, a response, to the love that God has given to us. God commanded us to love in deed, from the heart, and with selflessness. I have chosen to love because he loved me first."

(1 John 3:16-17)

September 30, 2015

TREE

by D. Simmons

Black bodies swinging In the southern breeze, strange fruit hanging from the poplar trees, I would say strange fruit indeed. This poignant observation was a song recorded in 1939 about human life, black life and the Jim Crow south is both heart wrenching and incendiary. The song "Strange Fruit" had multiple recordings; it's most famous rendition was released by Billie Holiday. It was a protest "against the inhumanity of racism" written by Abel Meerpol (graduate of DeWitt Clinton H.S in Bronx, New York where Countee Cullen, James Baldwin, Stan Lee and Ralph Lauren are also alumni) who wrote it after seeing a photograph of a lynching, as reported by NPR Music.

The poplar trees are mostly in Southern states, they are strong and their flowers are both male and female; they have strong sturdy trunks to support the male and female "strange fruit". Trees, the poplar tree in particular, are supposed to be a fragrant reminder of our deep roots and ability to withstand harsh conditions. They were, in reality, the tool of used by evil to kill, to denigrate and to break the spirit of any Negro who thought s/he wanted to be free. Is freedom only truly actualized at the murdering hands of the oppressor?

We know and understand that there is nothing new under the sun; today, we as a people are still hanging from trees. The world moves along minding their business ignoring the injustices and the nooses continue. We cry out, we pray, we march, we sing and now we hashtag; bodies are still swinging. We are tired. We are tired of the funerals for our children; tired because there are doctors, teachers, architects, pilots, golfers, swimmers and gymnasts who the world will never know. In the midst of the struggle, mothers are grieving over the executions of their children and husbands. In this struggle, mothers are dying figuratively and literally: the question I put before you is, as a people of faith what do we do? In these moments together, let's explore freedom from a faith perspective and consider a call to action.

Tree appears 287 times in the King James Version of the bible and poplar twice. Hosea, 4:13 talks about sacrificing under oaks, poplars and elms. Trees give us context to the story, these trees are ceremonial and strong; yet, they were used by unfaithful people to bring a pleasant shade while they did evil. The people were burning incense and asking advice of idols: this was the whoredom/prostitution/unfaithfulness to God. Hosea, whose name means salvation, was instructed by God to marry Gomer, a whore. His personal life was linked to the message of faithfulness and an illustration of the relationship between God and people. When we think about freedom and everything going on in the world, what message is our life sending? Have we prayed and fasted to hear a word and a call to action from God or are we allowing whoredom to rein. I believe this nation and we as a people, have relied on whores like false prophets (church leaders who lack integrity and want the spotlight versus justice and God's will) and today's wealthy politicians (much like the biblical kings) to lead us. The result is moral and spiritual degradation; this is not freedom. Freedom is to live without fear, being able to be open, honest and having the ability to be safe while living in a cooperative supportive environment. It, for me, only occurs where there is solid moral ground and a spiritual base.

Lack of freedom is the continuous struggle and in 2015, this is the American noose by which we hang. What is it that we need to do to be free? Hosea was instructed by God and even when it seemed strange, he followed the plan; thus, the lesson of repentance, redemption and restoration" insight.org/resources/bible/Hosea.html What is the plan that God has for you?

As we continue to examine the allegory of "Strange Fruit", it sheds light on the divide between America and God. American history is one of people who used the word of God for genocide, like Pharaoh, hearts were hardened and our people suffered. We were hung from the poplar trees; fruit on display for everyone. Galatians 5:13-23 tells us we are called to be free, love our neighbor and not live in discord and hatred. We are to show ourselves as "the fruit of the Spirit…love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control". How do we reconcile being on display and persecuted with the mandate to show our fruit? Evil continues in this land; we have been massacred in our churches, gunned down in the streets across this nation by people who are supposed to protect us and we are dying in custody under mysterious circumstances. We are still an oppressed people who are supposed to be free. God says love, flesh says, "now is the time for a Nat Turner worthy uprising". In a concerted, collective intentional matter, we need to make our requests to God. If and when He says move, then we need to surround the enemy, sound the proverbial trumpets and believe that the walls will come down. Surround the enemy by taking over seats in the legislature, infiltrating the blue racist gangs and self-correcting degenerate behavior (stealing, killing and petty crimes within the community). The work is plentiful, what sound will you make in the revolution? The genocide of the late 1800's and early 1900's was the byproduct of slavery of black and brown people; a part of the unreconciled differences in this country's history. We are suffering today because genocide is prevalent today, they have just found new and improved ways to execute. Our collective freedom is an illusion and for some, our faith has been shaken. In your anger, do not sin.


Recognize that we are like sheep among wolves; as a result, we need to be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves (Matthew 10:16). We need to stand firm in our faith and like a tree-stand tall. Educating ourselves and our children will ensure we have deep roots (Jeremiah 17:8). As we maneuver through this American nightmare, we need to exhibit fruits of the spirit, know the role that God would have for us, give voice to the struggle, offer solutions to our families and our community and declare, in our actions and our strategy so loudly, that #blacklivesmatter we cannot be ignored. The plain vision of one man was written to declare that there is strange fruit in the land and there was a woman who ran with that revelation as she lifted her voice in song. Daughter, your gifts will make room for you to exalt His name, fight this battle and run this race. Seek God and all else will be added.




Deirdre Simmons, PHR, SHRM-CP, entrepreneur, past president f SHRM Gateway, and most important role-wife, began Cast Your Net on the Right Side #NowWhat non-profit to bring a relationSHIPS dialogue to the community. This God-given vision provides biblically based practical instruction for men and women on everyday living while edifying participants.  There are 2 other business under the cast your net brand: Cast Your Net Travel and Smoove Stones.

This graduate of Purdue University is also an EEO Advisor, has a certification in HR and is currently enrolled at UCONN.

The former Deirdre Cash has been married to chef, trainer, chaplain, Minister Jerry Simmons for 6 1/2 years.  She has worked as a servant leader in several ministries however, wife is her first ministry.



September 16, 2015

"JUST SAY SO ALREADY" Psalm 107: 1-2

Isn’t it good to know that we are redeemed through the blood of Jesus Christ?  This week Alisha Nocks writes in verse a reflective analysis of where we find ourselves when our focus is on doing what is “good” even when it is not God. 

One of the most poignant lines reads “…isn’t good the enemy of great?”  Wow!  What a thought to ponder on! Are you suffering from being stuck in just doing what is good instead of walking in greatness?  Read Alisha’s entire poem here: Just Say So Already 


We hope that you enjoy this week’s blog post and will engage in discussion with us.  To learn more about Alisha Nocks and to read her full blog visit Infusion4Christ

September 8, 2015

WHO WILL WEEP FOR US? (Jeremiah 9: 17-25)

by Simone Oliver


I began a journey through the book of Jeremiah about two weeks ago starting, as I always do, at the beginning.  Try as I might I can’t seem to get past chapter 9 which calls for the skillful wailing women to take up a wailing for the city.  The women are called to mourn and take up lamentation and God uses them prophetically to call the people to repentance.  “Yet hear the work of the Lord, O women, and let your ear receive the word of His mouth; Teach your daughters wailing, and everyone her neighbor a lamentation.  For death has come through our windows, has entered our palaces, to kill off the children – no longer to be outside! And the young men – no longer on the streets!” (Jer. 9: 20-21) I thought immediately about Jamyla Bolden, the 9 year old girl who recently died when random bullets entered her home while she was doing her homework on her mother’s bed.  I thought of the hundreds of black and brown bodies killed by law enforcement and by others… sometimes by others who look just like them.  I thought about the number of Trans and gay sisters and brothers who have lost their lives because others don’t think they have a right to live and be who they are in the world… and then I wept… uncontrollably… I wept… consumed with grief… I wept… like Jesus… I wept.  The groaning of my spirit seemed as dark and abysmal as the tears were hot and wet.  Suddenly and without warning I spoke these works, “But who will weep for us?”  

As we weep for others, who will weep for us?
  • 46 percent of African American women over 20 years of age have hypertension, only 31 percent of white women and 29 percent of Latino women in the same ago group do.
  • African American women have a higher mortality rate from breast cancer.  Every year 1,722 African American women die from this disease.  
  • Chlamydia and gonorrhea infections are 19 times higher for African American women than white women.  
  • African American women represent 65 percent of new AIDS diagnoses among women. 
  • African American women are four times more likely to die for pregnancy related causes and have the highest rate of premature births. 
  •  About 29.1 percent of African American females are victimized by intimate partner violence in their lifetime (rape, physical assault or stalking).   
  •   African American females experience intimate partner violence at a rate of 35% more than that of white women and about 2.5 times the rate of women of other races.  However, they are less likely than white women to use social services, battered women’s programs or go to the hospital because of domestic violence.
  • While white women earn 78.1 cents to the dollar when compared with white, non-Latino men, African American women earn 64 cents. 
  • The poverty rate for African American women is 28.6 percent compared to white, non-Latino women which is 10.8 percent.  
  • African American and Latina women are 3 times more likely to be incarcerated than white women.  
As we weep for others, who will weep for us?  We are being choked by the socially constructed shame and silence that accompanies the pain of womanhood.  We are being suffocated by the myth and the weight of being strong black women.  Who will weep for us as we grieve and lament the violence done to our brothers and sisters? Who will weep for us as we agonize over the affliction of our children?  Who will weep for us? Tears. Trials. Mourning. Misery. Suffering. Sickness. Depression. Distress. Worry. Woe. Torture. Trouble.  Who. Will. Weep. For. Us?

Gather the women.  Gather the women together that they might heal and let their tears be the ointment of cure.  In “The Miracle of Tears”, author Jerry Berman describes how the phenomenon of crying heals us physiologically, psychologically and spiritually.  While the wailing women gathered to mourn for others, the gathering and tears were beneficial for themselves.

  • One of the properties of tears is that tears help us to see.  Literally.  Tears lubricate the eyeballs and prevent dehydration which allows us to see.  If we are to see our own brokenness, those issues we have buried and kept silent we must do so in a safe and sacred community of women who will help us re-imagine ourselves in new and powerful ways that will enable us to rewrite our stories. 
  • Tears remove toxins that build up in our bodies as a result of stress.  We must be careful to remove ourselves from toxic environments and toxic people for the healing of our own souls.  We must be keepers of our own peace.  
  • Crying can elevate the mood.  Who knew that elevated levels of manganese (whatever that is!) can cause us to feel anxious, nervous, irritable, fatigued?  No, you are not crazy!  Go ahead and indulge yourself in a good cry.  
  • Tears build community.  Often tears compel us to reach out to comfort others, lending support to others sometimes we don’t even know and allows us to exchange a deep level of intimacy.  We should be intentional about building these safe and sacred communities among ourselves.

Who will weep for us?  While we weep for the horrific violence, the bloody carnage that surrounds us all, who will weep for us? We are brutalized and traumatized daily.  Not only by a system that believes we are of little value but by those we love and care for – those we cherish and long for. We who weep for others must #StayWoke.  We must intentionally create safe, sacred spaces where we can weep, heal, be restored and recover our wholeness.  After all, #BlackLivesMatter.



Simone Oliver has journeyed from tragedy to triumph, from victim to victor, and from surviving to thriving after a horrific, violent attempt to end her life.  She is a passionate preacher, educator, and advocate for women who is committed to the spiritual care of women and girls, bringing healing to their wounded hearts through God's grace.

Simone is Executive Director of New Day Ministries, Inc. which she founded with her husband, Allen, to combat gender-based violence and create safe sanctuaries in all churches.  


September 1, 2015

A New "Blessed Chix"

A few months ago I found myself grappling with how to resurrect the Blessed Chix blog after it sat idle for almost 2 years while I went back to school to earn a master's in Library Science.  The blog stayed with me and I often felt guilty for not picking up my writing again.  Upon applying for graduation a thought came allowing me to see Blessed Chix through a new lens.  The "chix" in Blessed Chix after all is plural so why should I take on the blog by myself?  It hit me, I needed to find other like-minded women to contribute to the blog itself.  I prayed about it and God spoke to four women that are perfect for the site and I cannot wait for you to hear a word from the Lord through them.

Although I waited, the blog is coming back with greater vision and purpose in this new season and we are all so excited.  The future of Blessed Chix (the blog) will be inclusive of writing by multiple women with varying spiritual gifts that add a unique touch that we pray will empower, encourage, and inspire our readers.  We hope that you will come back weekly to read our posts, get to know us, and chime in on the discussion about matters of the heart and spirit-filled living.

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Nikitia (creator-Blessed Chix-the blog)



Nikitia (Niki) Wilson believes in the power of storytelling.  She founded Blessed Chix to fulfill the call that God gave her to reach, encourage, and inspire women and girls through testimonies of overcoming the odds.   Niki has dedicated her life and ministry to creating a platform where women can share  with each other in safe, nonjudgmental, and “come as you are” environments in order to find fullness in life and in love.  She is happily married to her husband Rev. Eli Wilson, III and resides in Metro New York where she is a librarian.