by Simone Oliver
“26Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on
your anger,27 and give no opportunity to the devil.” (Eph. 4:26-27,
ESV)
I love Thanksgiving! Don’t you?
More than Christmas, more than Resurrection Day, Thanksgiving Day
transcends religion, race, gender and all of the stuff the “isms” are made of. Anyone and everyone can find at least one
reason to give thanks. BUT, Thanksgiving
can also be a stressful, messy time for families. A time when along with the turkey at the
table, bad blood and bickering often take a seat as well. Ever present and unresolved conflict seem to
surface under the stress and tension preparing for family gatherings and
holidays. So along with saying, “thank
you”, we may also need to say, “I forgive you”.
It seems that forgiveness is
easier said than done. It certainly is
easier for some than it is for others.
Out of sight is usually out of mind so even when we think we have
forgotten, old wounds can resurface in the presence of those we don’t see often
and resentment can begin again. Some
people finding it easier to forgive than others is just an innate characteristic, but all of us have the capacity to forgive.
We can choose to make the mental shift in our thinking, being assured
that for every commandment there is enablement. Making that choice allows us to
develop genuine compassion for the offender(s) and make a conscious decision to
trade our anger for peace. It doesn’t
matter how the offender chooses to respond or if s/he responds at all, our
capacity to forgive and let go of anger and resentment affords us the benefit
of being at peace with ourselves and with God.
It helps to realize how many times we’ve been forgiven by others and the
atonement of Christ Jesus for our lives.
When we consider all that Christ has accomplished for us, then we must
be mindful of how powerful and necessary forgiveness is for ourselves and for
others. There is nothing more humbling
and gracious than to be offered forgiveness by one we have offended. The sense
of peace and rest that is experienced is incredible. To know that what has been
broken among siblings, friends, or neighbors is now fixed is a sweet gift. However, there are some relationships that
cannot and should not be restored. The
offense was so horrific that the relationship is irreparably broken. Yet, even in this we are commanded to
forgive. The relationship may never be
restored, but letting go of anger, resentment or the desire for revenge
restores our peace and well-being. If we
believe in God’s unconditional forgiveness of our offenses, then we have
wonderful point of reflection as we work to forgive other. Sometimes, forgiveness is a process. (For)give, thanks!
Simone Oliver has journeyed from tragedy to triumph, from victim to victor, and from surviving to thriving after a horrific, violent attempt to end her life. She is a passionate preacher, educator, and advocate for women who is committed to the spiritual care of women and girls, bringing healing to their wounded hearts through God's grace.
Simone is Executive Director of New Day Ministries, Inc. which she founded with her husband, Allen, to combat gender-based violence and create safe sanctuaries in all churches.
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